Hi, you! Thanks for being here. So this page is a continual expression of my evolution and fluidity because that’s what I believe we as humans are. From time to time, what’s listed below will change. I hold these ways of identifying loosely with the understanding that I am all of these and none of them, and so much more. Sometimes identities are added and other times they’re shed, but they’re all part of my story. I hope you enjoy learning more about me.

(Here’s some TL;DR info: my study lineage can be found HERE, and my official media bio can be found HERE.)

Being your Authentic Whole Self means reclaiming and honoring all of who you are—your ancestral bloodlines, your chosen kin, your spiritual and cultural roots, and every intersection of your identity that the world has tried to fragment, silence, or commodify. It’s a radical act of resistance in a world designed to erase, sanitize, and control those of us who do not conform to whiteness, cisheteronormativity, ableism, capitalism, and patriarchy. For some, authenticity is rooted in ancestral memory and sacred obligation. For others, it’s chosen family, queer joy, neurodivergent creativity, and stories never meant to survive colonial archives. But for all of us, it’s about refusing to shrink ourselves to make others comfortable. It’s about owning our narratives in defiance of the systems that distort and erase us. You are already whole. Your wholeness is not a prize to be earned by assimilation, productivity, or proximity to privilege. It is your birthright. Yet, every major institution—from media to school to church to workplace—invests billions into convincing you that you are broken unless you conform. Resist that lie. Knowing yourself deeply is not self-indulgent; it’s revolutionary. It allows you to understand which parts of you have been neglected because of structural violence—colonial trauma, racial capitalism, ableist exclusion, gendered erasure—and which parts are rooted in ancestral power and survival. Tending to yourself is tending to the future. This kind of self-knowing births clarity. It allows you to move through the world not by default, but by deliberate, liberated choice. And that is what decolonization is: not just political, but deeply personal. The more we reclaim our truths, the more we decolonize our minds. That self-liberation becomes contagious. You’ll begin to move with more compassion, more clarity, more rage where rage is righteous—and more love where love is radical. You’ll notice how you shift rooms, and how your authenticity challenges systems not built for your existence. That’s not accidental. That’s power.

My current and evolving identities (non-hierarchical, fluid, and intentionally intersectional):

• I am the ninth child and second daughter of Bienvenida & Ezequiel, granddaughter of Leonor & Aristarco. Mother to Ezequiel Hermes—my son, my mirror, my teacher.

• Pronouns: she/they/ella/elle. I speak in we because I am never just one; I am the many who walked before me and the ones I walk with now.

• Queer, cisgender, non-Black, white-presenting woman of the global majority. #DecenterWhiteness #WOC

• Neurotypical with reverence for neurodivergent brilliance.

• Able-bodied and in active solidarity with disabled kin and disability justice movements.

• 1st Gen Borikua on stolen Lenape land—connected deeply to my Taíno ancestral roots, the land, the sea, the sacred sky. #ProudBorikua #DecolonizeBorikén #LandBack

• Adaptive leader, intangible dot-connector, and anti-capitalist solopreneur actively resisting extraction, exploitation, and burnout culture.

• Blooming abolitionist and recovering reformist—committed to the dismantling of cages, police, patriarchy, and punitive mindsets.

• Program Director at a justice-oriented nonprofit advocating for equity in education—a system shaped by settler logic and designed for control, not liberation. I walk in, knowing the house is not ours, and still fight for the children inside.

• Buddhist practitioner and animist — rooted in sacred interconnection with all sentient and non-sentient beings. My altar is the soil, the stars, the breath.

• Radical curiosity practitioner, obsessed with getting to the root. #AudreLorde #NoSurfaceAnswers

• Trauma-sensitive mindfulness practitioner, chronic course-taker, certificate collector—because the world tried to deny us knowledge, so now I feast.

• Proud single mama of a 31-year-old who is both my child and chosen comrade in liberation.

• Full-time live-in caregiver to my 95-year-old mother. #ElderCareIsJusticeWork #FamilyCareIsRevolution

• Settler on Munsee Lenape Land (Jersey City, NJ). I say this with responsibility, not guilt. #LandBackIsNotAMetaphor

• Introvert-ish, homebody, and curvilinear thinker: I do not move in straight lines; I spiral, like our ancestors’ cosmologies.

• Lover of luxury, sometimes bougie, aware and actively unlearning the internalized classism colonialism implanted to pit us against our roots.

• Goofball, cat guardian, and dark chocolate snob: joy is part of the resistance.

• Anti-racist, #BlackLivesMatter forever; unlearning anti-Blackness in all its colonial mutations.

• Decolonizer, in body, mind, spirit, and practice. #PalestineWillBeFree #FreeThemAll #AbolishZionism

• Survivor of rape and partner abuse. My survival is sacred. My healing is political. I name it to rupture the silence patriarchy feeds on.

• Compassionate disruptor, reluctant public speaker, recovering people-pleaser—done seeking colonial validation.

• Have an invisible illness, and live with scoliosis — reminding me that resilience and softness can coexist.

• Soulful, sensual, sexual, sacred being, made of stardust, memory, grief, and joy—a living archive of resistance and renewal.

• Aquarius Sun, Leo Rising, Taurus Moon – guided by disruption, rooted in care, loyal to pleasure and truth.

• Enneagram 9 – Peacemaker (but only when peace is rooted in justice, not silence).

• Human Design Generator (3/5) — I follow energy, not efficiency. I build what needs building.

• Hip-Hop lover, House Head, Salsera — rhythm is ancestral. Movement is medicine. Dance is resistance. 

Some fun facts:

• I’m the youngest of 9 siblings, and we deeply love and respect one another. I’m so proud of each one of them.

• I randomly drool for no reason... often.🤤

• I spent every summer in Rincon, Puerto Rico until I was in high school.

• The first dance I ever learned was Latin Hustle when I was 5 years old.

• I was a pro salsa dancer for almost 20 years. The dance floor was and still is my protest, my altar, my home.

• I won a Disney-sponsored salsa dance marathon (32 hours straight!!) at the Copacabana in NYC. (picture above)

• I unschooled my son from the 8th grade through high school.

• I'm suspect of most anything “mainstream". Always have been, even as a kid.

• My Buddhist name is Kunga Yudron. It means All-Joy Turquoise Torch. 

• I once choked on a fishbone and had to go through surgery to have it removed. They couldn’t find part of it! It might still be somewhere in my nasal cavity. 😱

• Run DMC & dancing The Wop saved my life… actually, it saved my ass from getting kicked in the 7th grade, but it sure felt like a life save.

• My entire 6th-grade class “canceled” me for the full school year because I was too much - too showy, too loud, too proud.

• I was born & raised in Hoboken, NJ, but I consider myself more of a NYer. As a teen, I used to sneak out of my house to go clubbing in NYC.

• I’ve had a formal meditation practice since 2007; however, my first experience connecting to the breath and being with what-is was during Bradley’s birthing classes. That’s now almost 31 years ago.

• My hair is extra long right now, but I love wearing my hair super short. I got my first pixie-style cut when I was 9. (picture above)

• It’s taken me 10 years to build my mentor/coaching/guide/teacher practice and it’s still evolving

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My Core Values

• Freedom - I want everyone to experience their life outside of capitalist, colonial, supremacist systems. I work towards the building of systems rooted in community, respect, self-determination, and care.

• Balance/Harmony - Life is about consciously creating balance (where possible) throughout your day. Even the sensation of being out of balance can bring a sense of harmony when you hold it with kindness.

• Curiosity - Sometimes, we feel like we don’t know, and other times we feel like we absolutely know. That’s part of what the mind does. What’s more important than knowing is living with wonder and curiosity about what else is possible.

• Wisdom - There’s wisdom deep within us, in our bodies, in our hearts, and in our minds. The wisdom we hold is intergenerational and collective. It connects us to our humanity and our spirituality.

• Commitment - I believe growth of any kind requires commitment—the journey within, sometimes even more so.

• Humor - Life is so much more enjoyable when you can laugh, especially at life itself and how seriously we take ourselves.

My Signature Strengths

• Gratitude - Family, friends, chocolate, my bed, my fur babies, a warm pair of socks on a chilly morning, the color of the sky as the sun sets, that I get to be alive and do this work with amazing humans. I am truly grateful.

• Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence - I see beauty in everyone and everything, in the smallest of creatures, in the simplest of gestures.

• Love - Love is why I was born. It’s what I’m meant to share in the world.

• Love of Learning - I’m a lifelong learner. I want to know things, and I bring a sense of gentle curiosity everywhere I am. I have a serious addiction to books and digital courses.

• Fairness - The systems currently in place (and have been in place for hundreds of years) are inequitable and unsustainable. They were built to keep Black People, Indigenous People, and all People of Color in a deep deficit. It’s out of balance, and I’m doing all I can to help bring it into balance. I’m working towards bringing about equity and the decolonization of our minds.

My primary & secondary threat responses

• Appease (aka Please, Fawn) - I tend to downplay and/or ignore my own emotions and needs to help other people feel safe and understood.

• Flight - Self-explanatory. I’m out. Peace.

Q & A

• How has knowing my identities and how they intersect helped me understand, appreciate, and even love all parts of myself? I’m a whole-ass human being with all the emotions, fears, passions, doubts, and joys that come with being a human. I understand that I am who and how I am for different reasons, most of which were completely out of my control. When I make poor choices or stay in played-out cycles, I can acknowledge that I have a few choices. I can beat myself up for being a flawed human or/and see that I’m a complex, multi-layered, multi-faceted being with the potential to learn, shift, grow, and evolve. I can perpetuate the binary ways I was raised with - good/bad, right/wrong, this/that, or/and I can learn to live in paradox and hold both the good and the bad that life and I myself are made of. I can believe that I am wholly responsible and at fault for all of my limitations, or/and I can recognize that I’m part of oppressive systems meant to exploit and dehumanize me for being who I am. I can learn to see that even my “bad habits” and “poor choices” have served me in some way. With this understanding, I choose to be here for myself in compassionate ways. I choose to grow in ways that are stretchy and take me out of my personal status quo in dignified, nourishing ways. I speak to parts of myself and parent parts of myself in ways I wish I had experienced as a child. I get to renounce or/and reclaim labels placed on me to keep me small and marginalized. I get to know myself and be willing to continue to know, to not know, and to trust in the mysterious unfolding of myself as a human BEing and us as a connected collective. I get to rewrite this story my way… full of audacity and love.

• Why am I so passionate about helping you be your most authentic, most whole, most fully expressed self? This shit is hard, but it’s worth it. It’s also really, really amazing, empowering, and can be lots of fun. It’s all the things all at once. I want you to feel the array of emotions that comes with truly seeing and honoring yourself for exactly who you are and where you come from. With deeply knowing yourself, you start to see that you have choices, and you get to choose how you move through the world. Self-knowledge also comes with self-trust and the ability to self-soothe and self-regulate while opening up to receive support from your community and loved ones. Ultimately, your continuing to feel bad about your body, thoughts, emotions, choices, past, mistakes, family, and life is depleting your life force energy and keeping you separate from the love and happiness you’re searching for. And the love and happiness you’re searching for already exist within you and within your care community right under the layers of shame, blame, conditioning, and programming you’ve inherited. The benefits of learning to appreciate (and love) all parts of yourself impact every aspect of your life, from your physical health to your mental & emotional well-being, to your confidence, to your ability to manage stress effectively, and even your ability to create clear, loving boundaries. Bottom line, I want you to look at yourself in the mirror, gaze tenderly into your own eyes, and say, “I deeply love, honor, and respect you,” and feel those words to be true in every cell and fiber of your being.

• Why should you hire me as your coach? Because the world needs the magick and medicine you carry in your heart, mind, body, soul, and spirit. Hire me because you know deep down there’s more to healing than what’s being sold in self-help reels and mainstream wellness marketing. Hire me because you understand that trauma isn’t just a mindset problem, and you deserve more than “good vibes only” and bootstrapped affirmations. Hire me because you’re done with cookie-cutter solutions, and you’re ready for something deeper. Something truer. Hire me because you’re ready to dig into the depths of your Self in community, in safety, in truth. Hire me because you’re ready to shed, release, and burn through the layers of not yours that you’ve been carrying for way too long. Hire me because you’re willing to rest. To celebrate yourself. To do what your ancestors and elders weren’t allowed to do. Working with me won’t change your life because I’m a healer, guru, or expert. It’ll change your life because I will never ask you to be anything other than who you truly are. I call it Radical BEing. I work with whole people. People who already have the wisdom, creativity, resourcefulness, and sacred knowing to feel into what’s right for them.

  Disclaimer: Don’t hire me if you’re looking for life hacks, quick tips, productivity tricks, or someone to tell you what to do. That’s not my lane, and that’s not the medicine I offer. If you’d like to review my training, click HERE.

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